HOW TO WIN YOUR EX BACK

Dealing with a break up is tough. There are sleepless nights, sad music and a lot of thinking about the past. You're probably feeling like you can't go on, right?

But wait, there is some good news...

Thousands of couples have gotten back together, even when all things seemed hopeless - and even if you might be the only one trying.

Having been through a few break ups myself, I've put together a guide of essential steps for winning back your ex boyfriend (or girlfriend).

This is something I wish I had as I watched as my ex slipped through my fingers.

But before you read it, watch this quick video.

It's about 9 minutes long, and a little slow at the beginning, but when you're done watching it you'll have a much better idea of how to deal with a breakup. Click here to watch it.

Now, let's begin.

1. Don't be desperate.

And if you ARE desperate, don't show it. You need to play it cool - and back off. But don't lose sight of your goal of winning back the heart of your ex. This is so important that if you only learn one thing from this article that would be it - and that's what you'll learn from this video.

2. Give Some Room

If you keep calling or texting your ex, please stop. If you chase your ex-love, he/she will feel suffocated and will drift even further away from you. Having said that, don't follow him/her and don't have your friends keep tabs on them either. This is bordering on the creepy.

This may seem against your nature to do. I understand that. You feel like if you back off, you e will think you've moved on and forget about you. This is not true. The more you back off, the more he/she will wonder about you and MISS you. This is soooo important to understand.

3. Socialize

This is going to seem against your natural tendencies too, but one of the best things you can do is spend time with other friends and family.

Be willing to accept their help and advice they may offer. The worst thing you can possibly do (and this is what you're going to want to do) is isolate yourself from others and spend time wallowing in your sorrow. If you do this, you will spend your time crying, feeling hopeless for yourself, thinking about how much you miss your lover and how much you want to get them back.

And all this isolation will not only make you miserable, but may cause you to do some dumb things that will make it even HARDER to get your ex back. You may only have one chance to do this right, so you have to be very careful.

4. Consider Your Options

After you've gotten advice from your friends and family, take some time to think about what they've said. There will be a lot of options now that you have taken some time away to think about the whole situation.

Do you still feel the same way you did when you broke up? At first you really wanted to get back together - after taking a break is that clearly what you want?

Maybe talking to your friends and family has brought up some hard truths about your relationship that you didn't notice before. Maybe you have some doubts as to whether or not the relationship was even right at all. But maybe you still feel the same way, and maybe your feelings are even stronger. Whatever you may feel make sure you know what you want before you make your next move.

5. Contacting Your Ex

At this point you have a better idea of what you want, what went wrong in the relationship and what you can do to make things better. Contacting your ex is a crucial part of winning your ex back , so you have to know exactly what to do before you make this next move.

The best way to do this is through a written letter - not texting or email or a voicemail. For instructions on what to say in this letter, take a look at the video on this page.

The video will tell you what to say, when to say it and some advice on what to do afterwords.

Contacting your ex is just the first step in the reconciliation process. You have to make sure you have a some kind of plan after the initial contact.

I would suggest taking a look at this site and seeing if this book is something you think you need. It gives you detailed, step by step instructions on how to contact your ex, what to say, what to do if they call you back, how to tell if they still want to get together with you and more. I reeaalllyy wish I had this book a few years ago when I went through my first real break up.

Even if you don't get the book, remember that things are not hopeless and by following this 5 step method your chances to win your ex boyfriend back will be much better.

It is important to remember that you can win your ex back even if things seem hopeless. Please, don't give up. This article is a great start, but for a step-by-step formula that is guaranteed to win back the heart of your ex, click here. It saved my relationship and I would recommend it anyone.