The truth is, your girlfriend won't leave you cause you left some socks on the floor, or didn't wash your dishes. But, that doesn't mean that there aren't some small, but extremely important factors that if ignored could cause some major problems in your relationship – and you may be surprised to see some things that you've been overlooking.
How to Keep The Love In Your Relationship
Yeah, I know exactly what you're saying, I do show my love! I got her flowers...
Hold up there Casanova.
Problem is, gifts are just ONE of the many ways women express love – and some women don't even associate giving gifts as showing love. Many women won't feel that they are loved unless they those three words often.
It's not that your sweetheart has forgotten that you love her – it's just she needs to be reminded, and often. “Yeah but I told her already last week!”. Yeah, but she thinks that maybe your feelings have changed since then. See, woman constantly re-assess their relationships. On the other hand, men get comfortable and assume that if things aren't bad, they must be good.
Which is the exact reason so many men are floored when all the sudden their girlfriend leaves because of something small and seemingly insignificant.
Tell her that you love her, and do it often. If you have a tough time saying it, right it in a note and leave it in her purse, put it on her car. Make her lunch and write it on her napkin (my personal favorite :)
How To Really Listen
Imagine taking to someone you really like, when you notice they are staring into space and you know they aren't paying any attention to you and could care less what your saying? You'd feel rejected and hurt right? A lot of women are in this situation often when talking to their husbands or boyfriends who often don't even realize they're spacing out.
When your sweetheart talks to you, put aside what you're doing and listen. Don't think that you aren't allowed time to yourself. If you're in the middle of finishing a report, doing the taxes, watching the game, gently explain that you would like to talk as soon as you are done, and that you'll give her your full attention then.
Be Honest (Most of the Time...)
The old adage “Honesty is the best policy” is true, but when it comes to relationships you have to use honesty wisely. Flat out lying is a DEFINATE no-no, but a little tact can go a long way in keeping the peace in your house.
Let me explain.
Here is a good one, “Do I look fat in this dress?” Some men might answer, No honey! You look 15 pounds lighter!
That isn't sincere (unless of course it's true) so instead how about, Can't really say, you look great no matter what you wear.
Sound corny? Well, try it sometime and I promise you'll like the result.
Being tactful and diplomatic doesn't mean you can't talk about the things that really bother you. In fact, it's much better to bring out the things that bother you than let your resentment gather and risk blowing up at her one day!
When both partners are willing to have a little patience and put the comforts of their partner before their own, some incredible changes will take place in the relationship. Get some good relationship advice for men from the right source and your relationship will get even better.
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